You want your marriage or  relationship to be all you know it can be.  If you and your partner are not feeling the connection and support you need from each other, expert relationship counseling can be the fastest way to get back on track.

I have been helping couples successfully resolve differences, restore loving connection, and repair relationship damage for over twenty-five years.

To get results, you need a very active, engaged couples therapist.  Have you had an experience with a prior therapist who “just listened, never gave advice, and didn’t get us anywhere?”   I give concrete, practical suggestions and teach couples specific, targeted skills they can apply immediately.   In our therapy, you will be engaging in a very dynamic, skill-based, growth process.

To be sure your relationship succeeds our sessions will focus on the following tools:

· Targeting key issues.  I initially meet with partners together as a couple and in  one-to-one meetings to be sure I understand the big picture and each of your individual perspectives.

· Effective Communication.  Many partners report they find themselves saying the same things over and over while their partner reacts, becomes angry, deflects and digs in.  I take a very active educational stance, teaching couples how to talk with each other to create communication breakthroughs in mutual understanding and results.

· Key Skills for getting your needs met by supporting your partner.  Too often we ask for what we want by pointing out what our partner is doing wrong.   At the very point we are asking for positive change, our unskillful approach can build resentment, and leave our partner feeling blamed, and unwilling to cooperate.  I teach a set of practical, easy-to–apply tools to gain one-another’s support rather than trigger another round of fighting, blame and accusations.

· Breaking Negative Relationship Programming.   Unhelpful attitudes and patterns first learned in childhood and earlier relationships clog our ability to give and receive.   In therapy we actively examine these patterns and break their negative influence on your marriage or relationship.

· Active Repair of Hurts, Resentments, Broken Trust or Infidelity.  If you have been deeply hurt by your partner, trust needs to be rebuilt.  It can be if partners are willing to make the repairs needed.

· Understanding Gender Differences can lead to breakthroughs.  Women and men deal with their emotions in different ways.  They think differently, and the words men and women use can mean totally different things to the opposite sex.  This therapy will teach you how to navigate these cultural and brain differences successfully.

· Tools to discuss issues without falling into the same corrosive arguments, blaming and judging.  Gain effective coaching in how to get your needs met.  Learning these important tools can save your relationship, and prevent years of bickering or breakup.  You will benefit from sharing your wants without triggering your partner into feeling criticized.  When people feel blamed they shut down and resist. When we ask for what we need without reacting, blaming and judging, breakthroughs are possible!